Published: 07/25/2007 - Updated: 09/27/2018
Each person has their own way of thinking to interpret the world around them and try to handle it the best possible way. Generally, all of us are seeking to feel good with ourselves and others and achieve the goals and objectives that we propose in our lives. We use two systems of thought: the rational and experiential.
The rational system operates following established rules; it is slow, conscious, analytical, logical. It is used, for example, to make a mathematical calculation.
Experiential system is based on experience, it's automatic, fast, easy and is related to emotions and personality. Experiential intelligence is based on those thoughts in our minds that automatically appear to any event in our life, and in more general ways of seeing the world, ourselves and others, learned from childhood and throughout our lives and experiences that are part of our way of being. For example: "I think we cannot trust anyone" or "I think in the background, everyone is good."
These thoughts can be constructive or destructive.
Constructive, if these help us achieve our goals and avoid the emotional turmoil, and are destructive in the opposite case. For example, if someone thinks that does not control life, that is a puppet of fate and that nothing good will come, are likely to thwart the own goals and happiness and just having some kind of emotional disturbance, as depression. Those who think that nothing bad can happen and that the problems are fixed at the end without doing anything else, will likely end up having difficulty seeing things just as unrealistic.
Constructive thinking and emotional intelligence
Constructive thinking is related to intelligence
The characteristics of emotional intelligence are:
- Ability to identify emotions (what we are feeling and what others feel) and express them.
- Using emotion to reason and make moral decisions, (example: taking into account the feelings of others before doing something, being able to give up something we want for the sake of our family)
- Ability to understand the emotions: Why do I feel this way? Why that person feels that way? What would I or others do in this situation?
- Managing emotions: being open to both positive and negative emotions, learn from them, moderating negative emotions and increasing positive without stifling or exaggeration.
Social intelligence and practical intelligence
Social intelligence, (which allows us to interact with others in an effective, problem solving and interpersonal adequately satisfying relationships) and practical intelligence, allows us to effectively solve the various problems that arise in daily life.
Conversely, when you find it difficult to get a state that allows us to integrate into the environment, we must look in front and fix it.
When inside ourselves, there are is more living than outside, we can say that our emotional intelligence is in balance.