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Do you get offended easily? Learn to overcome it

Do you get offended easily? Learn to overcome it
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Published: 06/27/2013 - Updated: 11/24/2016

Author: Miriam Reyes4 Comments

Having a tendency to get offended can occur for various reasons, although frequently it is linked with self-esteem issues. Not feeling good enough with who we are can generate a feeling of low self-esteem and makes us more sensitive. Having low self-esteem can make us see or consider ourselves with zero worth and therefore we generate an opinion of ourselves as inferior to others.

When we feel inferior or non-valuable, it can cause us to be an easier target from the negative comments which are sometimes around us.

Contents

  • A little bit of psychology
  • How can I change this?
  • Recommendations:

A little bit of psychology

One of the terms to respect in psychology is the "self-fulfilling prophecy" consisting in a person having negative thoughts about what will occur and who inadvertently contributes to the events turning out in a negative way.

For example, a woman before going to a meeting or celebration thinks, "I’m not attractive and nobody will want to approach to me", this thought will then unconciously direct her to not having a good time through her own doing, whether it be by being non-communicative or unconsciously projecting body language which rejects company. At the end of the day, her prophecy will probably be fulfilled, not precisely because of the reasons that she believed but by the attitude that her negative thoughts produced. Finally, the message we get from such an experience is that, in effect, everything happened as we predicted and this conduct reinforces our negative thinking, affecting us increasingly in a downward spiral.

We become fearful of others and feel threatened, thus we adopt a defensive attitude. Attacking another person or lashing out is a form of creating distance and it also makes us feel more secure, like we are "protecting" ourselves.

Feeling offended is a feeling of malaise, like feeling attacked, disqualified, questioned or judged. However, often the problem is about internal character problems.

How can I change this?

To overcome this susceptibility, we must first strengthen our own self-esteem. Start to value ourselves beyond what we do, or what we produce, but simply our essence.

Taking our self-esteem from achievements, skills or our physique is not ideal, but instead we should take it from our essence, always remember this. We are equal people and come to the world with an essence: Learning to love this through reflection is possible in order to increase our self-esteem. The superficial things genuinely are unable to help us work through this issue and as an example, there are many sportsmen/women, entrepreneurs and successful people who remain some of the most insecure people.

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Recommendations:

Walk: When you feel irritable or offended, the most advisable thing to do is take a walk: Try to go for walks daily and breathe deeply. Remember that everything is a development i.e. a consistent evolution. If something does not go as you hoped, it is only a mere part of life, so try to focus your energies on figuring it out.

Avoid negative thoughts towards yourself: We all have defects, but we shouldn’t focus on them. Although all of us have faults, it is better to say something positive about ourselves.

No-one is perfect: Never set perfection as your goal, since we know that is unattainable. However, you can set more achievable objectives. Advancing with small but meaningful achievements and sometimes failures is a valuable experience in life.

Try new things: Feeling useless or limited can lead us to be susceptible to feeling offended. Try other activities to put you in contact with new situations, discover something good that helps you to strengthen your self-esteem.

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Do not put yourself aside: We cannot sit by and watch, hoping to somehow reach what we desire, one must be the protagonist of one's own life.

Do not push yourself outside of the limits of what you are capable of: Although pushing yourself is good, pushing yourself more than what you can do is not healthy. Learn to enjoy what you have – nobody should demand more than his/her best effort.

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About the author

By Miriam Reyes

Miriam Reyes is a professional expert in nutrition and dietetics. She has more than 12 years of experience in caring for patients with overweight and eating problems. She studied at the Universidad del Valle de Atemajac (UNIVA), where she obtained a degree in nutrition. Linkedin profile.

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Comments
  1. Camille

    27 de June de 2013 at 14:18

    One of the major problems in the society of now is the lack of esteem since many we have many conflicts since we are kids and we develop a mind that has many limitations and this stops our inner creativity and true development, so we should start teaching our children about this important fact of life.

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  2. Aria

    4 de August de 2013 at 17:09

    My favorite recommendation is trying new things as this could help you to become a better person and concentrate all the rage is something more useful, like painting or doing relaxing activities, which are good factors that help people to become happier and less stressful

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  3. Stacy

    26 de September de 2014 at 07:33

    Excellent article. Here in the united states, people get so “offended”, over what I consider “stupid” things. They’re not really stupid things, it’s just insanity that someone would be offended by them. People get offended at free expression, which makes no sense! Especially if no one is trying to force you to do, think, or feel any particular way!

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  4. Emily

    28 de April de 2016 at 15:54

    This article really hits the nail on the head I think! If we are conscious of the fact that by being sensitive or easily offended we are merely projecting our own insecurities onto someone else, we are already half-way to solving the issue! Being aware of that is half the battle and so many people are unaware of why they feel so “on guard” all the time – it is very difficult to identify the cause. Once you know, you can start indulging in yourself a little more often and boost your self-esteem!

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