Published: 11/07/2013 - Updated: 02/25/2016
Conformity is defined as the ability of a person to easily adapt to a situation. The "conformist" person today can be dismissed as comfortable, mediocre, or naive, however, a happy person is often confused with a conformist, as demanding people consider that there is no way to be happy with little.
Why do we want more money?
The person who is satisfied feels comfortable with what he or she has, is aware that perfection cannot be achieved and knows how to enjoy the moment. He/She conforms, does not spend and does not invest more than she or he has, since for him or her having more is not an absolute necessity.
The demanding or dissatisfied person knows about brands of quality, is never satisfied and always looking for more and better things.
On this basis, conformist people do not support consumerism and are not subject to the requirements imposed by system. They know how to be happy with what they have and therefore are often criticised by society.
Whilst demanding people are usually considered intelligent, astute, aware and never satisfied, they usually play the judge. Products and services available in the modern world usually seek to meet his or her approval but really, this is the result of the current system.
Conformist or happy?
It's hard to tell the difference, since the person that is never satisfied will never be happy with what he or she has, whilst the conformist enjoys and lives in the moment and does not care about the future. However, both extremes can be harmful.
Today, there are people who face their reality with optimism, although it is not the best ever, and often this can be confused with conformity, but is not necessarily so. A happy person can appreciate what he or she has, and this will prevent them from wanting more.
The enemy "comfort zone"
In complying with our pay, with our health, with our partner these factors can turn out to be enemies when it comes to excelling in life, i.e., it is normal that we all have problems sometimes, but doing nothing to prevent them or leaving them to grow can be very dangerous.
Some people consider that the comfort zone prevents us from even considering other possibilities and many times we can consider "this is what is right for me" or "why bother myself if I am comfortable now?", which can be understood as mediocrity, while for people who live that reality it can be their "it could be worse " or "I'm fine" attitude.
Upon reaching the comfort zone, it is likely that we will get stuck there, not seeking another reality and therefore we conform.
A bit of both
Viewed from this point of view, the conformist as the demanding type must learn from the other, since although it is advisable to be entrepreneurial and seek more in life, we must also learn to appreciate what we have in the present and enjoy it.
The Conformist, meanwhile , should consider that he or she can improve, not only in economic terms, but also as a person, in physical appearance, in health, in using different tools and learning new skills simply to live better.
Stopping is not so bad
We may be afraid to settle, since we often have the belief that by doing so, all is lost and by continuing to demand we will get further in life. However, from time to time it is good to stop and appreciate what we have: Taking a break is not so bad!
It is possible that a person who is demanding is full of goals, but these goals are often ephemeral and do not provide any real satisfaction when achieved. They are simply replaced by new goals.
It is advisable to reflect and identify our internal needs and not to be scared to rest, as resting is not about conforming, but learning to enjoy and certainly you can always have more. There's nothing wrong with knowing how to enjoy what is good and this, in itself, is an achievement.
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